Say the Problem (without blame), Thing of a Solution (save and respectful), Explore consequences (what could happen if...), Pick the best solution (make your plan)   Is feeling or understanding what someon else is feeling. Compasion is empathy in action! (ie. Look at her face and body for clues. What is his point of view? How does she feel? How can I help? What is a kind thing to say?)

     Stop - use your signal, Name your feeling, Calm down: breathe, count, use positive self-talk.   Sharing, Trading, Taking Turns

    Focus Attention, Listen, Be Assertive, Use Self-Talk (Ignore distractions)